Beating To Your Own Drum

Many times, we as humans unintentionally judge others. We may think someone should behave a certain way, speak a certain way or live a certain way. What we need to remember is that each and every one of us is beautifully unique and different. What’s the fun in being like everyone else? It’s important to remember that each unique quality that you possess brings a touch of color and excitement to the world.

I have a child who is happy just being on the computer. He’s not much of a social kid and for a while, I was starting to get a little worried. What I began to realize is that I had my own expectations of what I felt he should or should not be doing. He is a very happy-go-lucky kid. He isn’t afraid to say what’s on his mind, though at times I do have to remind him to use his inside voice because some of his comments come out during inappropriate times. He is the perfect example of someone who beats to the tune of his own drum and I don’t want to change that about him. I want him to find his own uniqueness, and be the individual he is trying to be. I know that he is not the kid who loves to play sports; he’d rather build something on the computer. He knows his strengths and so do I. I have learned that I want to encourage him to do whatever makes him happy. We as adults feel judged at times. Maybe there are times when you feel like you need to behave a certain way or put on a certain facade because you’re trying to fit a mold that others have placed on you. I am here to tell you to be yourself and do what makes you happy. When others judge, it most-likely has nothing to do with you. It often comes from their own insecurity and they are deflecting it on you. For many years, I felt like I needed to fit into a specific mold. I felt like I had to be the perfect stay-at-home mom who cooked, cleaned, took care of the kids and all the while doing it with a big smile. I almost felt like I needed to be a “Stepford wife.”

I am not taking away from any woman who fills her soul by cooking, cleaning and taking care of the kids. It’s not that those things don’t make me happy but I have a bit of a free spirit. I’m not a great cook and I’ve accepted that.

I beat to the tune of my own drum and I’m happy about that.